But you are not defined by your deficits any more than I am.

Sometimes I reread his old Mr. Blue advice columns, and I have nothing but love for him. He says, “But you are not defined by your deficits any more than I am,” and “you know that loneliness is an accident and no reflection on you, and you simply have to see yourself through it,” and “get off this bus and wait for the next one,” and also this: “Life is a mess, we agonize over it, and then we get in the car and go someplace to do something we need to do, and we are showered with mercy and forgiveness.”